Thursday, 17 January 2008
Its hard being a women. Well, kind of....
I saw this movie called Heartbreak Kid yesterday ,Being a Ben Stiller fan , he never failed to make me laugh .I wont tell the graphic detail of the movie because some of you might have not seen it, Its a movie about making the right choice regarding life partner where Ben Stiller is often under pressure to get hitched and he did but with a wrong women.In real life, I think women are often pressured compared to men name it by the parents, surroundings or peers with questions like when is the time? when are you...?, is He serious about you? He will marry you if He loves you....I am glad that my mother is not like a typical Asian mother who nags about me not getting married , she almost never mentioned it and allow me to make the choices of either which men or when I should be married because somehow our life destiny is unknown as she often said marriage is full of responsibilities and this is my mother talking OK, BUT ... I think peers a.k.a acquaintances whom I hardly know and whom are engaged or hitched always seems to provoke and create a competitive atmosphere and comparing how much love they and their partner has got and how big and lavish their wedding will be and of course the compulsory subject which is their bling bling huge diamond ring.
Great! I am happy for you.and this is the answers that I should have given when this ladies were blabbing trying to make me feel unworthy.
And she(and he) live happily ever after
Raised in a very untypical environment, I was raised to have ambition to achieve it and to live my life in my own way. When?, How?, with whom I will do it ? I might want to keep it private and personal.NOT that I have not been proposed before, and if I were the wicked women I could have been laughing out loud , happy that a fish had taken my bait. I believe in fate and what feels right and I prefer not to think about something that I can't fix or predict.I had spent 2 years of my life being stucked and bed ridden and not being able to fulfill my ambitions because I was too busy practising how to walk, grow my balding hair and pronounce my speech right again! as I am typing this now , I am not even the old me anymore.I definitely think fate and destiny will work themselves out, No strategies ,no emotional games played, no lavish wedding just me and a heart so sincere loving my groom till the end of my day...With the right person , the right feeling, the right timing.......
I will put on that diamond ring in a heartbeat.
So to those ladies, please leave me alone, let me have fun and mind your own business.